Synopsis

LUST, LOVE, AND THE LIES WE TELL OURSELVES

From Puberty to Our Final Goodbye

Was It Love? Or Was It Just Chemistry Wearing a Convincing Disguise?

We’ve all said it. We’ve all felt it. And most of us have been wrong at least once.

“I’m in love.”

Three little words that have inspired marriages, broken hearts, extraordinary sacrifices, terrible decisions, and life’s happiest moments.

But what exactly do we mean by love?

Is adolescent attraction the same emotion that sustains a fifty-year marriage? Is sexual desire proof of love? Can we love someone and desire another? What happens when passion fades but affection remains?

In Lust, Love, and the Lies We Tell Ourselves, author Robert D Sears takes readers on a candid, humorous, and provocative journey through attraction, sexuality, romance, commitment, and companionship.

From puberty to our final goodbye, this book explores what we feel, what we believe, what biology contributes, and what experience teaches us.

Love Changes. So Do We.

Across 23 thought-provoking chapters, Sears examines:

• Adolescence and first love: Why hormones and imagination turn fleeting attraction into promises of eternity.
• Our twenties and thirties: Falling in love, choosing partners, marriage, and life beyond the honeymoon.
• Midlife relationships: Changing needs, temptation, infidelity, forgiveness, and staying together.
• Love after sixty, seventy, and eighty: Why aging doesn’t eliminate desire, affection, romance, or companionship.
• Life’s final chapters: Caregiving, tenderness, loss, and the meaning of a final goodbye.
• Religion and sexual morality: How religious teachings, prohibitions, cultural expectations, and shame shape relationships.
• The science of attraction: What biology and psychology reveal about lust, infatuation, attachment, and enduring love.
• The lies we tell ourselves: Comforting illusions that prevent us from recognizing genuine love.

A Different Kind of Book About Love

This is not a romantic fantasy promising one perfect soulmate. Nor is it a religious sermon, marriage manual, or scientific textbook.

It is an invitation to question cherished assumptions with honesty, compassion, curiosity, and an appreciation for human foolishness.

What if our greatest mistake about love is assuming that the way it begins tells us how it should end?

What if passion and lasting affection are different chapters of the same story?

And what if understanding the difference between wanting, needing, and genuinely loving someone could change our lives?

Who Should Read This Book?

This book is for adults who have fallen in love, fallen out of love, endured heartbreak, questioned relationships, built partnerships, or discovered how intimacy changes with age.

Whether experiencing first love, navigating marriage, beginning again, or looking back across decades, you’ll recognize something of your own story.

Because the greatest love story may not be about finding the perfect person. It may be about discovering what love actually means.

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Discover the difference between lust, infatuation, attachment, and enduring love.

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You may be surprised by how much of your own life you find between these pages.